Come Undone

When you find the thing that bugs you the most, what do you do ? Do you squash it like the bug it is or do you nurture the resentment and feed it with evil thoughts of revenge ? I opt for the second one.

Don't mess with me because I am not a lean, mean bug squashing machine. Don't mess with me because somehow, someday, somewhere you might trip over your lies and I will be there to catch you and make the rest of your life a living hell. I can and I will. Just remember, be nice to the plain ones because they are the ones who will make you regret your nastiness.

Beware and considered yourself warned.

FW: Happy Bdae

A birthday wish from Samuel.

Thanks dear !

"A year spent in artificial intelligence is enough to make one believe in God." -- Alan J. Perlis

From: "Samuel Gan" <383838@starhub.net.sg>

To: <aneleh_27@hotmail.com>

Subject: Happy Bdae

Date: Wed, 27 Apr 2005 11:12:04 +0100

Happy Bdae

Birthday luck from you for my exams on Friday please...

And as a birthday treat

http://www.zorpia.com/cgi/journal.cgi?journal_id=0001135860

Regards

Samuel

Big W(h)inners

I had just read Sam's last two web journal entries. One of them had him dissing on people who whine and scream, "NO CHOICE!". He raised some points about getting out of your own comfort zone to look at other pastures instead of screaming, "LIFE IS TOO FU*KING DIFFICULT!" all the time. Take the plunge once in a while. Chance on chance itself. Understand that in order to get something you desire, there is some other things you would have to sacrifice. Tough, but such is LIFE.

So what then should all these nutters do ? Just bear and grin it if you find that you do not want to change your lifestyle. Stop all the bloody complains !

Heaven at my feet

I guess this post is a little long. I put this up because I figured it made sense and would like to share with you guys.

QUESTION : Female-Led Prayers: A Step Forward for Women? On March 18, 2005 Amina Wadud led the first female-led Jumu`ah Prayer. On that day, women took a huge step towards being more like men. But, did we come closer to actualizing our God-given liberation?

ANSWER : (This answer was kindly provided by Sister Yasmin Mogahed, a member of Ask About Islam Editorial Staff. Yasmin is an Egyptian-American journalist based in Wisconsin, USA. She is currently studying for a Master's degree in Journalism)

What we so often forget is that God has honored women by giving them value in relation to God-not in relation to men. But as Western feminism erases God from the scene, there is no standard left but men. As a result, the Western feminist is forced to find her value in relation to a man. And in so doing, she has accepted a faulty assumption. She has accepted that man is the standard, and thus a woman can never be a full human being until she becomes just like a man-the standard. When a man cut his hair short, she wanted to cut her hair short. When a man joined the army, she wanted to join the army, and so on. She wanted these things for no other reason than because the "standard" had it. What she didn't recognize was that God dignifies both men and women in their distinctiveness, not their sameness. And on March 18, Muslim women made the very same mistake.

For 1,400 years, there has been a consensus of scholars that men are to lead Prayer. As a Muslim woman, why does this matter? The one who leads Prayer is not spiritually superior in any way. Something is not better just because a man does it. And leading Prayer is not better just because it is leading.Had it been the role of women or had it been more divine, why wouldn't the Prophet have asked Lady `A'ishah or Lady Khadijah, or Lady Fatimah-the greatest women of all time-to lead? These women were promised heaven and yet they never led Prayer.

But now, for the first time in 1,400 years, we look at a man leading Prayer and we think, "That's not fair." We think so, although God has given no special privilege to the one who leads. The imam is no higher in the eyes of God than the one who prays behind. On the other hand, only a woman can be a mother. And the Creator has given special privilege to a mother. The Prophet taught us that heaven lies at the feet of mothers. But no matter what a man does, he can never be a mother. So why is that not unfair?

When asked who is most deserving of our kind treatment? The Prophet replied your mother" three times before saying "your father" only once. Isn't that sexist? No matter what a man does, he will never be able to have the status of a mother. And yet even when God honors us with something uniquely feminine, we are too busy trying to find our worth in reference to men, to value it or even notice it. We too have accepted men as the standard; so anything uniquely feminine is, by definition, inferior. Being sensitive is an insult, becoming a mother is a degradation. In the battle between stoic rationality considered masculine) and selfless compassion (considered feminine), rationality reigns supreme.

As soon as we accept that everything a man has and does is better, all that follows is just a knee jerk reaction: if men have it, we want it too. If men pray in the front rows, we assume this is better, so we want to pray in the front rows too. If men lead Prayer, we assume the imam is closer to God, so we want to lead Prayer too. Somewhere along the line, we've accepted the notion that having a position of worldly leadership is some indication of one's position with God. A Muslim woman does not need to degrade herself in this way. She has God as a standard. She has God to give her value; she doesn't need a man here. In fact, in our crusade to follow men, we, as women, never even stopped to examine the possibility that what we have is better for us. In some cases, we even gave up what was higher only to be like men.

Fifty years ago, we saw men leaving the home to work in factories. We were mothers. And yet, we saw men doing it, so we wanted to do it too. Somehow, we considered it women's liberation to abandon the raising of another human being in order to work on a machine. We accepted that working in a factory was superior to raising the foundation of society-just because a man did it.Then after working, we were expected to be superhuman-the perfect mother,the perfect wife, the perfect homemaker, and have the perfect career. And while there is nothing wrong, by definition, with a woman having a career, we soon came to realize what we had sacrificed by blindly mimicking men. We watched as our children became strangers, and soon recognized the privilege we'd given up.

And so only now-given the choice-women in the West are choosing to stay home to raise their children. According to the United States Department of Agriculture, only 31 percent o f mothers with babies, and 18 percent of mothers with two or more children, are working fulltime. And of those working mothers, a survey conducted by Parenting Magazine in 2000, found that 93 percent of them say they would rather be home with their kids, but are compelled to work due to "financial obligations." These "obligations" are imposed on women by the gender sameness of the modern West and removed from women by the gender distinctiveness of Islam.

It took women in the West almost a century of experimentation to realize a privilege given to Muslim women 1,400 years ago. Given my privilege as a woman, I only degrade myself by trying to be something I'm not, and in all honesty, don't want to be-a man. As women, we will never reach true liberation until we stop trying to mimic men and value the beauty in our own God
given distinctiveness.

If given a choice between stoic justice and compassion, I choose compassion. And if given a choice between worldly leadership and heaven at my feet, I choose heaven.


"A year spent in artificial intelligence is enough to make one believe in God." -- Alan J. Perlis

Where do broken hearts go?

I told myself I am overdramatising again. I told myself to breathe. I told myself that she's always been like that. I told myself I wouldn't be hurt by the snub. I told myself I better shut my trap before I land my smelly feet in. I told myself so many things but I still refuse to listen to all the warnings. I am not being schizophrenic or a brick short of a wall. It's just that I cannot ignore the fact that sometimes people just do not want my big, fat face in their affairs. Who am I, the loserliest of the crowd from school. The underachiever, who is contented with her lot in life, never demanding more, the one who gets stepped on, the wallflower.

Maybe I should not have clicked onto her link. Maybe I should have just ignored that niggling feeling I had, that after a year and half of inactivity in our shared blog, it's really a fluke that she should post a photo a month back. Just as curiosity killed the cat, my curiosity killed whatever cordial feelings I had towards her. Hey woman, if you read this post, I want my Da Vinci's Code back. Just return my book and we'll be even stevens. I don't demand and then you don't have to give.

Fie and I actually bothered to meet up and our friend kept cancelling on us. Ahhhh ... People say, the throes of new love. That power eliminates even the best of friends. Maybe I just expect a little too much of the people around me. Everytime they don't deliver, I feel so let down. Remember the mess with Fie ? So now I have yet another mess. Psychotic, huh ?

Prevent a chocolate milkshake ....

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Fantastic Health Philosophy!

With all the BMI talk around town, I hope this clears up any misconceptions you may have had about food and diets:


Q: I've heard that cardiovascular exercise can prolong life. Is this true?

A: Your heart is only good for so many beats, and that's it... don't waste them on exercise. Everything wears out eventually. Speeding up your heart will not make you live longer; that's like saying you can extend the life of your car by driving it faster. Want to live longer? Take a nap.


Q: Should I cut down on meat and eat more fruits and vegetables?

A: You must grasp logistical efficiencies. What does a lamb eat? Leaves and corn. And what are these? Vegetables. So a kebab is nothing more than an efficient mechanism of delivering vegetables to your system. Need grain? Eat chicken.


Q: Should I reduce my alcohol intake?

A: No, not at all. Wine is made from fruit. Brandy is distilled wine, that means they take the water out of the fruity bit so you get even more of the goodness that way. Beer is also made out of grain. Bottoms up!



Q: How can I calculate my body/fat ratio?

A: Well, if you have a body and you have body fat, your ratio is one to one. If you have two bodies, your ratio is two to one, etc.



Q: Aren't fried foods bad for you?

A: Foods are fried these days in vegetable oil. How could getting more vegetables be bad for you?



Q: Will sit-ups help prevent me from getting a little soft around the
middle?

A: Definitely not! When you exercise a muscle, it gets bigger. You should only be doing sit-ups if you want a bigger stomach.



Q: Is chocolate bad for me?

A: Are you crazy? HELLO? Cocoa beans ... another vegetable!!! It's the best feel-good food around!



Q: Is swimming good for your figure?

A: If swimming is good for your figure, explain whales to me.



Q: Is getting in-shape important for my lifestyle?

A: Hey! 'Round' is a shape!


Remember, "Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, Savignon Blanc / Semillon in one hand and strawberries in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and screaming: WOO HOO! What a Ride!"

Go, figure.

*pissed*

Really mans ! I tried email posting my blog page and nothing comes up ! Craps to Yahoo and Hotmail, mans ! I am pissed now so I am gonna cut all the nonsense and start my assignment !

*sheesh*

Sunday I feel fine

Mans, talk about deep set procrastination. It is at its finest hour. My sympathies to my lecturer. Yes, the one who will be marking my crap of assignment. I was actually inspired to do well after opening my mail and seeing the marks I got for my Practical assignments. I didn't fall below the 70's range (yessss!). The lowest I got was a 72% and that was because I submitted my assignment like 2 weeks late. Read and weep, yes. Fourteen days (count that Devi!) late and I still managed a 72% ! No, I am not showing off but who's the woman ??? (ummm ... that would be me.)

Okay enough. I will have to start trawling the net for some info on what the effing is a pharmacophore. What the effing is that ? Anyone care to answer this ????

Just another Saturday ???

As you can see, I am writing this using my work computer. Yes, I love to go home but (as always there is always a but(t) in everything!) ….. And the but(t) is that I cannot go home and veg out as I always do on the weekends. At least not this particular weekend. *drum rolls* I have a last minute scheduled class later. I was actually planning to go watch a movie or something but then movies every week ? *eye rolls* My mom would sure have something to say.

So today being the filial daughter that I am *more eye rolling*, I am going out with the Mom. Gonna go bra shopping. Ooops … Way too much info, no ?

Hah. Nothing’s taboo to me now. Sex, lies and videotape. Can someone please tell me what is that movie trying to convey ? Anyways, you guys can see I’m rambling on. So I just need to end the entry.

Wish me luck, yeah ? I hope I won’t faint too much today. Getting a bit faint and breathless …. *winks*

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